Tuesday, April 11, 2006

Flawed

I'll describe myself as a disabled person, because at the moment, I am.

I am not able to walk freely, I use crutches, and my Amigo to get around.

I'm learning that many people in the general population really don't like people who are not perfect.

There are 3 kinds of people.

First: those who treat disabled people normally
Second: those who go overboard in trying to be overly nice to a disabled person
Third: those who find disabled people disturbing

I don't really want to delve into WHY people feel the way they do, just that they do.

The most frustrating for me are the third type. They are impatient, and often very rude. Not just ignore you, but seem to go out of their way to be intentionally rude, or at the very least to not try to hide they disgust and impatience with you.

An incident that made this clear happened about a week ago. I was slowing someone down because I move about more slowly than the average person, and this woman was trying to enter a door behind me. She had a look of disgust on her face, and flounced around and did everything she could to find a way around me, and seemed not to care that she was behaving badly.

Other similar things have happened many times in public places, where the person seems to go out of their way to push forward in front of you, cut you off, and just generally make sure "we" know they are the non-disabled, and therefore better, and more deserved of being their first.

Yeah, yeah, it's about their fear, blah blah blah

I wonder how I acted in the past. I recall trying to make sure I treated people the same as I would if they were not disabled. I wonder if I actually did. I hope so.

3 Comments:

At 2:07 AM, Anonymous karen said...

hi lynne...i hate that someone acted that way towards you, but i can't say i am surprised...there is just a predictable percentage of the population that behaves inexplicably and inexcusably. i wish you had been feeling a bit more mobile so you could have gotten up to kick her in the ass, lol. anyway, i've been thinking about you and am checking in from our visit with jenny, liam and loren. miss you and hope to see you soon!

 
At 9:17 AM, Blogger Lynne said...

ahh...I hadn't seen you online, I wondered where you were! Have a great time in NM!

(Oh, by the way, when I later encountered the woman in the store, and she stood blocking the aisle with her grocery cart, i came up real close and hoped to run into her with my scooter, but she unfortunately got out of the way. (true story, I have a witness)

 
At 5:18 PM, Blogger Lynda said...

When I first started blogging I did a rant on this. My husband has been on crutches since 2005. He usually wears an artifical foot, but had an infection, blah, blah, long story short.

Most people have been kind. But there are the ones that close the door in his face, take the handicap parking when they aren't handicapped (also they don't have the placard) and use the motor scooters because they are too lazy to walk their fat asses over the store. Those are the people that really chap my hide.

I bet you would love to whack them over the head with a crutch! I know I would!!

Oh, sorry! I ranted a little. :O

 

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