Thursday, February 02, 2006

not so easy

to be the patient. When one has an "incurable" illness, one of the most difficult things to do is keep your friends and family from feeling too sad. I suspect people will say it isn't my job to do that. Nevertheless, to see how the people who love me worry and feel sad is very, very difficult. I want to ease them and say 'I'm alright'...so they don't worry so much.

I've been on the other side of it. The losses of my father, mother and sister all to cancer gives me an unwanted perspective from both sides. I remember the utter despair I felt at my sister's passing. I was useless. I sat like a lump and couldn't think of any of the right things to say, and I was of little help. Same when my mom was ill. I couldn't move. I sat in a chair and watched while others hustled, because I was frozen in sorrow.

I'm so sorry, my wonderful family and friends that you have to bear witness to my struggles. Thank you all for being here for me.

2 Comments:

At 2:59 AM, Anonymous kidsis said...

Are you still feeling bad about not being productive and active? Remember, your only job is to breathe.

Just be you. They're so thankful to be spending time with you and sharing this part of their life with you, trust me. Mom struggled with feeling like a burden too, but underneath it all your loved ones are happy to carry you.

Love, Lis

 
At 3:10 PM, Anonymous Marsha said...

I am here, I hope you know. I think of you all the time, and will be glad to be living nearer soon. We will get together and have lunch! Your paintings are beautiful, (especially one.)

 

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